Love+Continued

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love:

attachment care-giving - compassion or sympathy

evolution and compassion - we have a response to people who are in distress.

oxytocin - seems to create a neurochemical feeling of love. oxytocin is in breast milk.

endorphins - stimulate dopamine receptors in brain. So, in a neurological sense, love is a drug.

romantic love is a drive: -1. roaming for love -2. being in love with someone -3. attachment

Emotional Convergence: peoples emotional reactions to things converge. So, the emotional reactions of people become similar. Increases longevity of relationship.

In the experiment they observed how people converge to the emotions of their romantic partner or their roommate?

People who are similar in attitudes and reactions tend to develop longer relationships.

couples who stayed together had a larger amount of emotional convergence.

4 patterns of relationship ending criticism - pointing out perceived problems with behavior defensiveness - usual response to criticism and countercriticize contempt - disagreement with views stonewalling - block relationship that hurts relationship

there needs to be some motivation to perform well, but over-arousal or over-motivation causes a decrease in performance.

2 phases of anticipatory fear Dread will keep us from performing the difficult task Over-motivation causes anxiety too.

anxiety is a generalized feeling of an anticipated negative outcome.

Amygdala is almond shaped and in the limbic system by the hippocampus

Amygdala is responsible for perception of fear.

Stimulating amygdala also creates learning.

limbic system is more primal than cortex.

GABA: Gamma Buteric Amino Acid which is neurochemical. GABA decreases brain activity.